RP Comfort Meme
A valuable meme for any role-player!
Come display your comfort levels so your role-play partners are aware of what they can do, and of what they should avoid! A healthy relationship between role-play partners is the key to a good time!
While this meme shows the basics, please remember to communicate with your role-play partners!
Role Play Basics
RP Methods
I am comfortable doing:
✘ Comment - I'm okay with an exchange of dialogue, but I don't view these as canon, just as an opportunity to have fun.
✘ Chats - I prefer not to use the chats, I'm a slow typer and have to think when I write like, am I writing what I intend to write? That doesn't lend itself well to the chat environment, although I can manage in a pinch.
✘✘✘ Notes - I've done this, but I feel like the notes just get lost somehow.
✔✔✔ Forum - Yes! This has long been my primary rp location, and I feel comfortable using forums.
✔✔ Skype - Skype is great for rp as well, though preferably in a separate conversation from where we chat. Especially for dialogue-heavy rps I think this is great.
✔✔ Google Docs - Yes as well! I'll get a bit self-conscious about typing in it and probably type up my reply elsewhere, but docs are a great place for rp.
- Other - I'm open to suggestions!
OOC/Headcanoning/RP Planning Methods
(hc = headcanon, which is essentially saying our charas will do a thing/have done a thing without actually RPing it out in depth necessarily-- altho we totally can!)
✔✔✔ Skype: Hit me up anytime for some headcanoning! Also a great place for small convos and getting to know each other.
✔ Google Docs: Sure, but it doesn't feel as natural as a convo on Skype. If we're doing enough planning to equire a doc to keep track though, go for it! -It's a good idea to have canon hc's stored.
✔ Discord: I have it. Hit me up like it's Skype 2.0.
✘ Twitter: No thanks, I'm sure it's great when you know how, but it's not for me at this point in my life.
Participants
I am comfortable with:
✔✔✔ One on one role plays. - Definitely my favorite.
✔✔ Up to three people. - I'm fine with this as long as everyone's got the same expectations about posting time and content.
✔ Up to four people. - Same as above, really!
✔ Five or more people! - Should be okay, but this easily gets bogged down with waiting and dies off quickly in my experience, unless it's a chat rp or skype group rp. It can work in a forum setting if, again, everyone has the same expectations about posting time and content, so I'm not gonna write it off entirely.
✘ As big as possible! - Please, no. I'll die of information overload long before it's my time to post again, then I'll fall off because I take too long to reply!
RP Style
I am all right with:
✔✔✔ Lit/Para: My preferred style, like we're writing a novel together.
✘ Script: I can, but I tend not to view these as canon. They're okay for crack hc's, or some times for actual hc's, but not for a canon rp.
Post Length
I usually write about:
✔ One or two sentences. - If it's a Skype rp and we're doing a conversation between two characters, I'd be happy for the post just to be what is being said, and perhaps any thoughts behind it. The same goes for a conversation on forum or in docs, but perhaps a bit less so. I use this if it feels unnatural to go on after what's been said, like I don't feel comfortable moving further without a reply from my rp partner.
✔✔ One or two paragraphs. - That's how I roll, more or less.
✔✔ Two to five paragraphs. - Depending on the circumstances, like there's a lot going on between the lines, this is also in my standard repertoire.
✘ More than five paragraphs. - Rarely. If it's the starting post of a rp I will probably write this long to set the stage, same if we switch to another scene. But for a normal rp post it's unlikely, unless they are short paragraphs.
✘✘✘ A few pages worth. - Never. I've written character sheets that were long (one went to 27 pages, but that had information about everything including some worldbuilding I had done since we players were encouraged to build parts of the world ourselves), but I don't think I could ever write a rp post that was several pages worth of text. It'd be too much, I'd feel bad for my rp partner.
I am comfortable role-playing with people who write:
✔ One or two sentences. - If our characters are having a conversation, I don't mind getting a single line of dialogue to respond to! If I write a few paragraphs and get a single line in response though, I'll think something is wrong, unless we just initiated such a conversation.
✔✔ One or two paragraphs. A bit on the short side, but I like it!
✔✔ Two to five paragraphs. - The middle of my comfort zone. Not too long, not too short. Gives me room to respond, while also giving you room to show and tell.
✔ More than five paragraphs. - This is okay, but I'd prefer if it wasn't every single post. If it's short paragraphs that's fine!
✘✘ A few pages worth. - I'm sorry. I would feel on the one hand intimidated and unhappy because I wouldn't be able to meet the same standard of posting, on the other hand perhaps like you were writing a novel and my input was just incidental to the process. I'd be willing to give it a try if I liked you or if I thought we could work something out, but only as long as you wouldn't feel bad that I couldn't respond with the same amount of text, because this much writing is probably beyond me in a rp context. I'm also a bit uncomfortable with a lot of filler, which I feel like there would be if all posts were to be several pages long? I'd be okay if it was the starting post only, or a scene-change post.
RP Speed
I usually reply:
✘ ASAP (within minutes) after my partner's post: I wish, but unless it's just hc, chat rp or a conversation, this is unlikely. It takes me a while to formulate a reply!
✘ within an hour: Sometimes. If I have managed to set aside some time just for rp, this is possible.
✘ within the same day: Ideally this, but also unlikely.
✔ within the same week: Yes!
✔ within the same month: I hope you don't have to wait this long. Perhaps I'm having trouble formulating a good reply.
✘ longer than a month: I don't always keep track of time, but if it takes more than a month it might be an idea to switch to hc. ✔✔✔ at random/variable times: Absolutely! I am inconsistent with regards to posting times, and my available time varies.
I expect my partner to reply:
✘✘ ASAP (within minutes) after my partner's post: Heavens, no. It's great if you manage, but unless it's a chat rp I don't expect this at all!
✘ within an hour: If we've set aside some time to rp together, then yes. Otherwise no!
✘ within the same day: See above.
✔ within the same week: Yes please, if I can manage the same speed. If you reply soon after me I'll also make an effort to reply sooner, so it's sort of a self-reinforcing cycle.
✔ within the same month: Yes please! If you have trouble coming up with a reply, talk to me.
✘ longer than a month: I'll think you've lost interest unless you tell me otherwise. It might be an idea to switch to hc instead of writing it all out.
✔✔✔ at random/variable times: Sure! We don't need to have a set posting time.
RP Reminders
I am okay with getting reminders to reply to an RP:
✔ when I've mentioned I got something going on irl: Don't be shy if it's been a few days, unless I gave a specific amount of time for the irl thing.
✔✔✔ when there is a deadline for the RP submission: Absolutely! If I've signed up for something with a deadline, I better follow through. Poke away!
✘ after 5 or 10 or 15 minutes: If it's a chat rp or we set aside time to rp together, then yes!! Otherwise no, I'm probably thinking about words.
✘ after an hour: Only if we've agreed to use the day for rp.
✘ within the same day: Still a bit early.
✔ the next day: If we agreed to daily posts, or if you're super excited!
✔✔✔ if I haven't replied in a full week: Please poke me!
✔✔✔✔✔ if I haven't replied in more than one week or longer: Yes, please! I might have lost track of time a little, but I didn't intentionally leave you hanging. Sorry!
I tend to remind people to reply to an RP:
✔✔✔ when there is a deadline for the RP submission: If there's a deadline involved, and we've both signed up for it, then yes.
✘ after 5 or 10 or 15 minutes: No, unless it's a chat rp or we set aside time to rp together, in which case I might poke you after 10-15 mins.
✘ after an hour: Only if we've agreed to use the day for rp.
✘ within the same day: It's a little early.
✘ the next day: Still early, even if I'm super excited.
✔ if you haven't replied in a full week: I'll probably make some whale noises and check how you're doing, but skirting the whole posting thing because I don't want to pressure you.
✔ if you haven't replied in more than one week or longer: Same as above, just I'll feel more awkward. I'll try to bring the conversation over to the topic of rp in some desperate attempt at subconsciously reminding you about our rp.
❗❗❗ A note about rp speed/reminders: English is my second language, and I can be something of a perfectionist at times, so sometimes I get stuck writing a post because I can't decide how to word it. Please poke me when I haven't replied in a while! I will sit down and write out what I can instead of keeping pondering my word choices. Otherwise, it might get set aside for ages, time passing quickly while I keep postponing my decision.
Role-play Requests
I like getting requests from:
✘ Anyone and everyone at any time! - I'm sorry! If we aren't or haven't been in the same rp group I am generally not available for rp requests. If we don't know each other somehow, and our characters don't even exist in the same universe, I don't think we'd get anything out of it. However, if we are or have been in the same rp group, please feel free to approach me with ideas! If our characters exist in the same universe, I'm happy to hear you out.
✔ When I ask for role-plays. - Obviously, if I'm asking for rp, I want to rp! Bring it on! 8D
✔✔✔✔ From friends and acquaintances. - If we're in the same rp group, or have characters that exist in the same universe, bring it on! I can be kinda timid about asking people myself, but it's something I'm working on. If you've got an idea, please share! 
✔✔✔ From friends only. - Always open to rp requests from my friends. <3
Corrections
I am comfortable getting corrections when:
✔✔✔ I missed something in your/someone else's post: Absolutely! If I missed something, especially if that might change my character's reaction, let me know!!
✔✔✔ I missed something about your/someone else's character: Same as above!
✔ It's realistic/factual: Sure, link me a source and I'll have a look! I wanna keep it realistic, but not to the point where it takes all the fun out - I'm okay with a bit of fudging.
✔ Other: If I misspelled something, or you think I misunderstood a word/sentence, please let me know.
✘ Never: Please don't hold it in if I make a mistake that lessens your enjoyment of the rp! Let me know, I won't bite. ^_^
Expectations
I expect my RP partner to:
✔/✘: have read my character app before we RP: I expect you to have looked at the pic and checked the written part for any visual cues your character might notice when they meet, but nothing more.
✘: NOT read my character app at all before we RP: Only avoid reading the app if you have problems separating what you know from what your character knows. There's stuff in there that isn't public knowledge, and I expect your character not to know unless their own character has justification for that in their own background. Being an information broker is not enough. If you feel like your char should know stuff from my char's background, let's discuss that before we start!
✔✔✔: read as much of my character app as is reasonable to go on before we RP: The picture, height, weight and any other visual/auditory/olfactory cues should be known by the player, so you know what your own character would notice.
✔✔✔: read more of my character app as it becomes relevant/necessary: Sure, but that exposition should come in the rp itself.
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Note on city leaders/publicly known characters: Your character knows some of their background on account of them being public figures. Please still don't assume that everything in the character sheet is public knowledge! If you're from a different nation you know less than if you're a citizen, for example. (Just think, if you're not German, what do you
really know about Angela Merkel?)
Romantic Relationships
** Important: Communication is the key to a real life relationship, it shouldn't be abandoned for a fictional one either! Be sure to talk to your partners when considering romance!
Shipping
I am comfortable shipping my characters:
✘ Never. - Pff, please! I'm the owner of my own shipping line. Shipping is fun, as long as we have the same expectations as we go in.
✔✔ Our characters know each other deeply. - Knowing each other isn't necessarily a key to romance, but I'm open to a deep relationship developing into something more.
✔✔✔✔✔✔ Our characters know each other deeply, and I know I can trust the role-player. - If I trust you, I'll literally put my character's fate in your hands. We can take things anywhere we feel comfortable with.
✔ At the first sign of flirting! - I'll crack ship with you like it's nobody's business, and I delight in the awkward stages of flirting back-and-forths!
I don't mind if it's a short-lived ship in canon, or even a non-ship, as long as we're both on the same page.
✔ Only if the role-player and I plan it. - Planned ships are great ships! I don't require it, but I love when it happens. Building up to a relationship that we've planned to happen is a lot of fun for me, but I'm fine with it happening unplanned too. Planning means I know how far I should or shouldn't go though, and I find that works better for me.
✔✔✔✔✔✔✔✔✔ It depends on the character. - I can't stress this enough. Some of my characters are flirtatious and/or seeking a partner, others are not. I'll crack ship anyone, but for a real ship I allow the character to decide.
If you want to ship with my characters:
✔✔✔✔ Talk to me about it from the start. - I'm open for basically anything as long as we discuss it in advance. I'm fine with starting out rping with a ship as an eventual goal, I think it's fun to play through stories having an idea of where we're gonna end up, it can make it more amusing to have them be a bit contrary at the start, for example.
✔✔✔ Talk to me about it once our characters know each other. - If you get an idea for a ship after we've rp'd a bit, I'm fine with it as well! Let's chat
✔ Talk to me about it once they both have some feelings for each other. - I'd prefer to talk abit before we get this far, but I don't mind this - I let my characters develop as they will and sometimes they will have feelings for someone after interacting with them for a while, and I'm fine with discussing a ship at that point.
✔ Talk to me about it when they finally decide that want to go beyond hugging. - I think if we got this far we'd have already talked about it, but if we haven't, now is the time! I don't mind finding out it's a one-off or whatever, but I like to know what I'm getting into.
Speed
When shipping my characters, I like the romance to happen:
✘ Swift as lightning! - Unless we planned it this way, no.
✔ Fast, but not super fast. - This is fine, especially if planned.
✘ Happens in about three months. - I don't think a set time is a good idea. Let the relationship evolve on its own time.
✔ Slow and steady wins the race. - This is also fine, especially if planned.
✘ Slugs know what's up! - There's such a thing as too slow. //laugh
✔✔✔ My relationships know no speed. They happen if they happen. - I prefer my relationships at the speed of plot, meaning whichever works best for our story. Sometimes they happen fast, sometimes slow, sometimes they are on and off. It's all good.
Smut
When my characters gets intimate, I prefer:
✔ To skip the act entirely. - This is fine. We can allude to it happening, but the details are not necessary.
✔ To write the build up, but skip the act. - If we go way back, maybe. I don't wanna make you nor me uncomfortable. Innuendos and wordplay are great! I like the subtle and unstated, leaving things up to the imagination.
✘ To write the act only if it is very special, but otherwise skip it. - I'm fine with little hints, but no pink, fleshy bits, thanks!
✘✘✘✘ To write the act all the way through. - No, I'd rather not.
Romantic Artwork
When it comes to artwork depicting our relationship please:
✘ Do not post it at all without talking to me. - If it's something that happened in a canon rp please feel free to post it! Otherwise I'd prefer if you talked with me first, although I don't require it. I'll let you know if something makes me uncomfortable!
✔✔✔ Post it if it is cuddles and hugs. - I can't imagine how this would be bad. Post away! 8D
✔✔ Post it if it is kisses. - This is also fine, but please mark it as crack if it didn't happen in a canon rp, or check with me.
✔ Post it if it is much more. - This is probably also fine, but again please mark it as crack if it didn't happen in a canon rp. And please check in with me if it involves physical situations of a disrobed nature, especially if it's showing parts of or the whole body.
✘ Do not post it at all if it depicts sexual acts! - I don't mind, but please check in with me first. Some depictions I'll be okay with, and some I won't.
✘ Do not post it where I can see it, but draw what you like! - If you're not gonna post it anywhere, draw anything you like! Then show it to me!
Dramatics
** Important: Always be sure to communicate with your partner individually if you think you are about to go outside their comfort zones even just the slightest bit!!
Violence
When it comes to violent situations, I am comfortable with:
✔ No violence at all! - Avoiding violence is fine.
✔ I'm fine with verbal arguments! - There's a fine line though, I'd probably be uncomfortable if I don't know you too well. Keep it IC.
✔ Some violence, like a paper cut, or an accidental elbow to the face. - It happens, it's not gonna disfigure or maim my character. But automatic hits are a big no-no unless we agreed on it in advance. If you do this without my consent I might roll with it since it's low impact, but I might also shrug it off. If I trust you I'm more apt to roll with it and see where you're heading.
✔ Mild violence, such as punching, kicking, hair pulling. - If our characters fight, this is what I expect. Again no automatic hits though, and I expect you to take as good as you give, unless we've agreed on something else in advance. It's important that we both have an idea of our characters' relative strength compared to each other, and let that factor in.
✔ Violence, such as stabbings. - If you're gonna potentially maim, kill or disfigure my character I want to know in advance. No surprise stabbings (for the player, that is)! If I say no, I need you to respect that. Likewise I'll respect a no from you. If we've discussed it and agreed, I'm okay with this.
✔ Beyond violence, such as torture and more. - Tentatively yes, provided I trust you and we've discussed things in advance. I love to make my characters suffer, but playing through a torture scene might not be something I want to do. Setting up the scene, then skipping the details, would be preferable. If I don't trust you or I feel like this is something that would not work in the current vein of our rp's I'll say no thanks.
If you are going to do something violent, please:
✔ Don't do it at all. - Stop and think. What are you trying to accomplish? Don't do something violent "just because". If there's violence I need it to mean something.
✔✔✔ Talk to me about it first. - Communication is key!
✘✘✘ Surprise me! - Gosh, no. Please don't. A surprise attack where my character is unprepared is fine. A surprise attack where I as player am surprised is not, unless this is a GM-run story rather than a cooperative rp.
Dramatic Artwork
✘ Do not post any dramatic scenes that that happened between our characters. - If it's canon, post away! I'd like to see it first though, just in case you drew something that doesn't match my interpretation of the scene.
✔ Talk to me about it before posting! - Yes please. ^_^
✔ Post what you like! - If it's not canon please mark it as crack, otherwise post away.
Other
Touching
I am okay with my characters being touched if:
✔ It's not romantic/sexual. - See below for caveats.
✔ It's not violent. - See below for caveats.✔ It's something that usually happens (e.g.: shaking hands when you meet someone). - This one should be okay, but again, see below for caveats.
✘ You check with me first. - You don't need to check with me first, but please do a sanity check!! If you boop the Serdar on their nose, there are gonna be consequences which you might not want for your character, but which I'd have to enforce to keep it IC.
✔✔✔✔✔ It depends on the character: Very much so. Please take into account their social standing compared to your character, as well as their comfort level with each other. If they've just met, please refrain from touching beyond a handshake, or be ready to face IC consequences. (Of course, if you the player wants these consequences, do go on! But in that case, let me know so I can do it with gusto.)
General Artwork
I am fine with art being done of my characters:
✔✔✔ if it's IC: Absolutely! I love it!
✔ if you don't know me/barely know me: Still good as long as it's IC! Or if not, at least tastefully done, with regards to the subject matter.
✔✔✔ if you are my friend: Of course!
✔ if you ask me first: Definitely. If you have a cool idea, but it's not IC, ask away!
✘ only if it's a finished/polished piece - It could be a WIP sketch, I'd still love it. Don't be shy! <33
Crack/AUs
When it comes to crack, I'm okay with:
✔ crack in general: It's a fun way to test ideas, what would char a do if X. But I wouldn't go beyond headcracking.
✔✔✔ crack-shipping: Sure! It can be fun, just let's not overdo it.✔ roleplaying in AUs - Tentatively yes. Short rps in an AU is fine.
✔ headcanoning in AUs - Same as above. It's fun to speculate, but at some point I wanna get back to the "real" rp.
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